Calia’s Cuddle Workshops

The Cuddle Workshops allow you to learn and practice consent and communication around platonic touch so you can cuddle in a comforting and relaxing way.

*Cuddle : platonic and consenting physical contact

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Intentions of the Cuddle Workshops


The Cuddle Workshops allow you to learn and practice consent and communication around platonic touch so you can cuddle in a comforting and relaxing way.

Host: Alie Valérie (profile)

Number of persons: 2 to 9 persons

Important

Calia asserts itself as a solidary space for trans, non-binary & queer people (in other words, the LGBTQIA + spectrum) (of course, no discrimination will be tolerated on site). Moreover, in the same vein, Calia tries not to reproduce the binary logic of genres and believes that the offer or demand for platonic touch should not be hampered by sexual orientation ─ after all, the practice of consent is not binding and every human being does need platonic affection. For all these reasons, the "man/woman" sex-ratio is not controlled nor adjusted during Workshops.
Instead, Calia pays particular attention to respect, non-judgment and especially consent so that each person can feel safe at all times and with any other person participating in the Workshop. In fact, let's remember that no one expects you to touch anyone and that no one will touch you without your sincere and explicit consent. Calia is above all a therapeutic space where people can feel safe and respected enough to let themselves, according to their own desires and without any pressure, explore or re-learn platonic physical contacts and the outlines of their own consent. Alie, professional in Câlinothérapie, is especially there to make sure of it, to guide you and accompany you throughout the Workshop.

So these are the goals of the workshop:

  • Explore platonic touch (dissociate affection from sexuality)
  • Practice your own consent and respect that of other people
  • Explore your own boundaries and respect those of others
  • Take responsibility for your well-being (learn to ask and answer honestly)
  • Learn to appreciate refusals
  • Respect your changes of mind and those of others
  • Leave with an appreciation of a pleasant, comforting or relaxing moment

Photo credit: Joshua Pool at Simpli Creative

Schedule


  Since communication is an essential element of consent, participants must ensure that they can understand and speak English (Cliquez ici pour les Ateliers de Câlins en français.).

It should be noted that for issues of consent and security for all, each client must sign the Service Contract thereby agreeing to comply with the terms and conditions of service and Calia’s Code of Conduct which includes the Guide to Consent. The client is aware that there is a video surveillance system and agrees that the session or workshop is filmed. These measures serve only to ensure the safety of all involved. Calia Cuddle therapy ensures the confidentiality of personal information and recording of its clients.

Typical schedule of a Cuddle Workshop

  • Arrival of the new participants, we remove our shoes, change if necessary* and settle in Calia’s Space
  • INTRODUCTION : Explanation of the rules specific to Calia's Cuddle Workshops as the Code of Conduct and the Service Contracts (everyone must have attended the introduction at least once in order to be able to participate in Calia's Cuddle Workshops)
  • Arrival of the participants who have already attended at least one Cuddle Workshop at Calia. We remove our shoes, change if necessary*, settle in Calia’s Space and sign the Service Contracts (if you arrive before, please, do it in silence so as not to disturb the introduction)
  • Closing of the doors (once the workshop had began, no one can join the group, not even if it's your Xth Workshop!**)
    Welcoming circle (we each present ourselves and start creating this space, this container, where everyone will be able to feel comfortable and respected)
    Explanation of the rules of consent and spoken exercises
  • Transition to the practice part
    Free practice of consent through platonic cuddles (you have no obligation to touch anyone!)
  • During the workshop, snacks and refreshments will be offered.
  • Closing circle, we listen to everyone's experience before leaving this magic bubble
  • Departure of the participants***
  • A few days after the workshop, you'll receive a conclusion email including, among other things, a link to a small survey where you can leave your comments.

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Important details

  • You are expected to have taken a shower and brushed your teeth before arriving. The clothes you wear during the Workshop must be clean and comfortable and cover your body from ankle to waist and from waist to the base of the neck and from shoulders to the forearms (long pants and t-shirt).
  • As soon as the workshop starts (15 minutes after the official time) the doors are closed. If You know that you will arrive late by less than 15 minutes, let me know and we will wait for you. But if you are more than 15 minutes late or if you have not notified me, you will not be able to enter. You can still be reimbursed (see the Service Contracts for terms).
  • You can leave whenever you want. If you leave during or just after the explanations (but before the start of practice), you can be reimbursed (see the Service Contracts for terms).

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Cuddle therapy does not include, under any circumstances, any form of explicit or implicit sexuality.

Cuddle therapy is not a licensed medical practice and should not replace the consultation of a health professional, either physical or psychological.

Schedule


  Since communication is an essential element of consent, participants must ensure that they can understand and speak English (Cliquez ici pour les Ateliers de Câlins en français.).

It should be noted that for issues of consent and security for all, each client must sign the Service Contract thereby agreeing to comply with the terms and conditions of service and Calia’s Code of Conduct which includes the Guide to Consent. The client is aware that there is a video surveillance system and agrees that the session or workshop is filmed. These measures serve only to ensure the safety of all involved. Calia Cuddle therapy ensures the confidentiality of personal information and recording of its clients.

Typical schedule of a Cuddle Workshop

12h45 / 18h45

Arrival of the new participants, we remove our shoes, change if necessary* and settle in Calia’s Space

INTRODUCTION : Explanation of the rules specific to Calia's Cuddle Workshops as the Code of Conduct and the Service Contracts (everyone must have attended the introduction at least once in order to be able to participate in Calia's Cuddle Workshops)

13h20 / 19h20

Arrival of the participants who have already attended at least one Cuddle Workshop at Calia. We remove our shoes, change if necessary*, settle in Calia’s Space and sign the Service Contracts (if you arrive before, please, do it in silence so as not to disturb the introduction)

13h30 / 19h30

Closing of the doors (once the workshop had began, no one can join the group, not even if it's your Xth Workshop!**)
Welcoming circle (we each present ourselves and start creating this space, this container, where everyone will be able to feel comfortable and respected)
Explanation of the rules of consent and spoken exercises

15h00 / 21h00

Transition to the practice part
Free practice of consent through platonic cuddles (you have no obligation to touch anyone!)

During the workshop, snacks and refreshments will be offered.

16h15 / 22h15

Closing circle, we listen to everyone's experience before leaving this magic bubble

16h30 / 22h30

Departure of the participants***

A few days after the workshop, you'll receive a conclusion email including, among other things, a link to a small survey where you can leave your comments.

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Important details

  • You are expected to have taken a shower and brushed your teeth before arriving. The clothes you wear during the Workshop must be clean and comfortable and cover your body from ankle to waist and from waist to the base of the neck and from shoulders to the forearms (long pants and t-shirt).
  • As soon as the workshop starts (15 minutes after the official time) the doors are closed. If You know that you will arrive late by less than 15 minutes, let me know and we will wait for you. But if you are more than 15 minutes late or if you have not notified me, you will not be able to enter. You can still be reimbursed (see the Service Contracts for terms).
  • You can leave whenever you want. If you leave during or just after the explanations (but before the start of practice), you can be reimbursed (see the Service Contracts for terms).

______

Cuddle therapy does not include, under any circumstances, any form of explicit or implicit sexuality.

Cuddle therapy is not a licensed medical practice and should not replace the consultation of a health professional, either physical or psychological.

Participants' testimonials

The workshop gave me tools to be able to take someone saying 'No" to me more easily - to see the situation in a positive light, to thank them for taking care of themselves, as opposed to not liking being said no to because I take it personally - so this is definitely something that has resonated with me and will be used in my day-to-day life! The part about consent as well and that it's ok to change your mind even after you have said yes or no. I would recommend this to everyone for the part about consent but also for the cuddles because, let's face it - in our lives today, cuddles, hugs, etc are a very rare thing and people are more often than not, afraid of them because they are not used to them - this is a nice place to go to to get that platonic touch that makes everyone's day just a little better! I would probably come back if I am able to!
Mish, 31, Montreal

I really enjoyed Calia's cuddle workshop - both for the practice cuddles with the other participants, and the thorough discussion of consent and self-care. I really like the phrase "Thank you for taking care of yourself" in response to a no!Alie was an excellent host and instructor, and the room was clean and charming. I'd highly recommend this workshop to anyone who wants to learn how to cuddle with consent 🙂
Skyler, 28, San Diego, USA

I learned a lot from calia's workshop. I left the session with tons of information to absorb and reflect upon in terms of consent, boundaries, honesty, self-respect, being in touch with my feelings, and the importance physical touch. It was an eye opening experience for me and i would recommend calia s workshop to anyone seeking to learn more about the importance of platonic physical contact and consent in everyday life. Thank you calia!
Pierre, 32, Montreal

It was a great way to bring more clarity to what the word "consent" means. It also helped provide a very relaxing evening, and an opportunity to meat new and interesting people.

I have been diagnosed with PTSD and not a fan of being touched. Going to Calia, it is nice that I have the option of saying yes and no. Alie is there to watch everything that happens and makes sure everyone is ok. When my triggers happened she came to speak with me, calmed me and I was able to consent and continue the session. Everyone that had attended were great and understanding.

I registered for the cuddle workshop out of curiosity for a different type of human contact with strangers. It ended up being a beautiful evening. Alie brought us softly into her safe space and we didn’t feel like strangers for very long. We learned, practiced, laughed and cuddled... As the workshop ended, we didn’t want to break the magic and kept talking for two more hours... Thanks Alie for this special moment and for your generosity!
Guillaume

I was required to examine a few beliefs concerning consent and adjusted my vision or definition of what a hug is. Basking in the warmth of a multiple person hug is fantastic. For me a hug had always been between only two people, adding more people to the hug only made it better.

I learned two things besides how to better consent, and they were 1) Time flies when you're cuddling. 2) Cuddling makes me very hungry. This was a unique experience and I am glad I had the chance to explore it. I would definitely recommend Calia to those that just need some time off. Alie the host was very gentle and paid attention to everyone to help us come together as a happy group!