Consent,
the right FIRES!
Consent:
Practicing Consent is basically making sure that everyone involved is, at all times, perfectly comfortable with what is happening. It’s making sure you light the right FIRES; meaning Freely given, Informed, Reversible, Enthusiastic and Specific.
Consent is therefore the key to a comfortable interaction for everyone!
When you have the right FIRES
Personal boundaries are easier to identify
It’s easier to be honest and say no when we mean no
It’s easier to ask for what we really need
The no becomes a beautiful thing as appreciated as the yes
Communication and relationships become easier
Being with others becomes more pleasant and comfortable
Calia Consent’s Mission
Calia Consent is a branch of Calia Cuddle Therapy created thanks to the donations received for its “consent-prevention” social cause. Calia Consent therefore aims to promote and spread the different concepts of consent, regardless of the type of interaction involved, throughout the population in order to make our society healthier and more pleasant to navigate.
Consent, is making sure you light the right FIRES!
Otherwise, it isn’t fun for anyone!
Freely given
Without intoxication, pressure, manipulation…
Would a NO be accepted AND respected?
Informed
Action, person, place, time, intention…
Make sure everyone is on the same page!
Reversible
People can always change their mind!
What if someone wants to stop once it starts?
Enthusiastic
« Oh yes!! » or « I don’t know, but I wanna try! »
Pay attention to feelings and body language.
Specific
Consent is only valid for the question asked!
If anyone wants more, adjust the question! 😉
Book an appointment for a consultation
and host a workshop or a conference on consent adapted to you, your needs, and your limits!
Whether you are a school, a business, an organization or any other group of 5 and more, Alie can help you better understand consent thanks to a workshop (with exercises) or a conference (without exercise) adapted to you, to your needs and your limits.
Virtual Sessions
There is only you, your couple or your polycule; don’t have a large enough group to justify a Workshop or Conference, but still want to learn more about consent? Do you need to share a personal experience, seek advice on a particular interaction, learn how to facilitate consent in your relationships?
Book an appointment for a Virtual Session!
Alie Valérie Hébert-Gentile
Professional cuddler since January 2018 and Founder of Calia Cuddle Therapy
Age: 39
Pronouns: She/Her
Origine: Quebec (Abitibi) and Italy
Spoken languages: Français, English, Italiano
Other passions (besides cuddling!): Plant biology, Car mechanic, Teaching, Barista, Orderly in CHSLD
Story: Alie has always liked to cuddle, but hasn’t always known how to enforce her own boundaries or even where these boundaries were. It’s thanks to her training as a professional cuddler at Cuddlist.com that Alie realizes the power of consent and the importance of respect for personal boundaries; not only in cuddles, but in all interpersonal relationships. It was then that Alie decided to create Calia Cuddle Therapy in order to help her clientele both to get more consented cuddles and to learn consent. Then, when Alie heard the new slogan “Without a yes, it’s a no!”, she decided to create an acronym bringing together the 5 criteria of valid consent, so that people realize that sometimes even a yes is not a real yes; that sometimes it’s not the right kind of FIRES. Today, thanks to the generosity of her clientele, Alie has created the Calia Consent branch with which she hopes to be able to teach and further spread the magic of consent in our society.