Thanks to Cuddle therapy, you can learn to listen to your needs in terms of cuddles and to communicate them; to listen to your boundaries and incomforts and to express them; and of course, to listen to your comfort and finaly enjoy it and let go.
Learn self-care and to affirm yourself while respecting others, one consenting cuddle at a time.
*Cuddle: consenting and platonic physical contact
The needs with which Cuddle therapy can help
Your Cuddle therapy session can have different shapes, according to your needs and boundaries.
These are the main needs for which people come to Calia:
- I want to relax and forget my problems and the stress from my day-to-day life.
- I want, for a moment, to be the one being taken care of instead of me taking care of everyone all the time.
- I want to explore different kinds of touch and cuddles and find out my preferences.
- I want to work on my personal growth and learn to affirm myself more, to better communicate and to be more at ease with other people.
- I want to feel close to someone else, connected to an other human being.
- I want a space where I can talk about all my problems and worries and be listened to, without any judgment.
- I want a safe and non-judgmental space where I can talk about difficult subjects and live my deep and intense emotions.
- I want to learn to appreciate physical contacts despite my autism spectrum or antisocial personality disorders.
- I want to relearn how to appreciate physical contacts despite my post-traumatic stress disorders.
Now about you, what do you need?
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Conduct of the session
1 Make an appointment
By making an appointment here on the website, you can see my availabilities and choose the time that suits you best and the duration you need. In addition, registration and payment are done at the same time, so it simplifies the process (see the Service Contract for reimbursement terms).
2 Prepare for the appointment
Before arriving at Calia’s, please take a shower and brush your teeth. Also remember to bring long clothes (minimum pants and t-shirt, no shorts or camisole), clean and especially comfortable (yes, you can put on pajamas or even a "onesie"!) (Of course, you can change once you arrive)
3 Your arrival at Calia’s.
When you arrive at Calia's, at the time of your appointment, Alie will invite you to come in with a smile. Leave your boots and coat at the entrance and enter the Calia’s Space. This room has been specially designed to be soft and comfortable; filled with cushions and blankets. Surveillance cameras help ensure the safety of all (customers and professionals) and music, lighting and furniture are adaptable to your preferences.
Before starting the session, Alie will take the time to discuss with you, listen to your expectations, needs, limitations and questions and explain how the session will proceed. Aside from a reminder of the Calia’s Code of Conduct, Alie will also explain the concepts of the Guide to Consent since the benefits of Cuddle therapy come first and foremost from the effect that consent has on the quality of cuddling. It is, therefore, necessary that you both consent throughout the session; otherwise, hugs can not be so beneficial. Before you start the session, you will both have to sign the Service Contract and then swear an oath of consent (that is, you both agree to respect your own consent and that of the other). Once everything has been discussed and accepted, the session can begin and the timer is started (indeed, the first part does not count in the time you have booked).
4 Your cuddle therapy session.
The course of the session is adapted to everyone. Alie is trained to make you feel safe and guide you through the world of touch and consent. You will be encouraged to take care of yourself, take responsibility for your comfort and ask for what you need. However, Alie is trained to accept only what really enthuses her. In other words, you can rest assured that if she says yes to one of your requests, it is because she is really happy to do so. At Calia, there is no "pretending".
(Of course, if joint consent can not be obtained, or if one of the parties does not respect the consent or the boundaries of the other, the session will be stopped (see the Service Contract).)
Cuddle therapy does not include, under any circumstances, any form of explicit or implicit sexuality.
Cuddle therapy is not a licensed medical practice and should not replace the consultation of a health professional, either physical or psychological.
The perfect cuddles
What makes a cuddle really comforting and relaxing? It's consent. It is knowing and trusting that the other person is enjoying it as much as we do. It is trusting that if there is any discomfort (physical or emotional), the other will tell us so; that, as long as nobody says anything, it means that everyone is comfortable and happy to be there, in this contact. It is having enough confidence in the transparency of the other to feel able to ask for everything we want; knowing that if the other is not comfortable or able to satisfy us with all their heart, they will simply say no and offer us something else, a compromise that could be nice for both. It is to understand that if the other person has said no to our request, it is not a no to ourselves, but only a no to the requested touch and that a no is vastly preferable to a forced, "fake" and uncomfortable touch. It is knowing that we have the right to say no. That if they offer us or ask us something that we do not like, we have the right to say no without them feeling rejected. It's knowing that we have the right to change our mind. That if we said yes to something and that 3 seconds later, we realize that we do not like it, we can change our mind and ask for something else, even if we have just said yes. For a cuddle to be magical, each person must be comfortable and consenting at every moment.
Alie Valérie Hébert-Gentile
Professional cuddler since January 2018
Founder of Calia Cuddle Therapy
Origine : Quebec (Abitibi) and Italy
Spoken languages: Français, English, Italiano
Other passions (besides cuddling!): Plant biology, Car mechanic, Teaching, Barista
Story : Alie has always liked to cuddle, but hasn't always known how to enforce her own boundaries or even where these boundaries were. It's thanks to her training as a professional cuddler at Cuddlist.com that Alie realizes the power of consent and the importance of respect for personal boundaries; not only in cuddles, but in all interpersonal relationships. It was then that Alie decided to create Calia, Montreal Cuddle Therapy, and to offer Cuddle therapy services in the form of One-on-one Cuddle Therapy Sessions and Cuddle Group Workshops in order to not only fill the lack of affection of the population, but also to teach and spread the magic of consent in our society.