Cuddle therapy at Calia

Cuddle therapy is the use of consent and respect of boundaries in order to create a safe and comforting space where one can learn or relearn self-care, self-affirmation and to express their needs and boundaries in terms of platonic physical contacts.

Definition of Cuddle therapy


Through the practice of consent, where everyone's agreement must be reached before anything happens, and the respect of Calia's boundaries and everyone's personal boundaries, a space is created where the participants feel comfortable, safe and respected enough to be able to explore their own needs, sensations and abilities to give and receive platonic physical contacts and, above all, to express themselves in consequences.

More and more recognized in the United States, Cuddle therapy is not only about hugs and oxytocin, but is mostly a therapy by consent. Thanks to the principles of consent and the respect of personal boundaries (those of the client AND the professional AND / OR the other participants, in the case of Group Workshops), an environment is created where the client can learn or relearn how to respect and assert themselves. The client is then invited to be more attentive to their needs and boundaries and especially encouraged to express them; the client can then explore the physical contacts in an environment where they feel that their consent and boundaries are respected (and where they must also respect those of the other(s)).
Not only does this approach allow the client to rediscover the benefits of hugs and cuddles, but it also allows the client to practice communication related to needs, consent and personal boundaries.
The client can also learn to reproduce by themselves, with other people, comfortable and reassuring situations where they will then be able to have enjoyable and consenting physical contacts.

Find out how we practice consent at Calia.

Definition of Cuddle therapy


Through the practice of consent, where everyone's agreement must be reached before anything happens, and the respect of Calia's boundaries and everyone's personal boundaries, a space is created where the participants feel comfortable, safe and respected enough to be able to explore their own needs, sensations and abilities to give and receive platonic physical contacts and, above all, to express themselves in consequences.

More and more recognized in the United States, Cuddle therapy is not only about hugs and oxytocin, but is mostly a therapy by consent. Thanks to the principles of consent and the respect of personal boundaries (those of the client AND the professional AND / OR the other participants, in the case of Group Workshops), an environment is created where the client can learn or relearn how to respect and assert themselves. The client is then invited to be more attentive to their needs and boundaries and especially encouraged to express them; the client can then explore the physical contacts in an environment where they feel that their consent and boundaries are respected (and where they must also respect those of the other(s)).
Not only does this approach allow the client to rediscover the benefits of hugs and cuddles, but it also allows the client to practice communication related to needs, consent and personal boundaries.
The client can also learn to reproduce by themselves, with other people, comfortable and reassuring situations where they will then be able to have enjoyable and consenting physical contacts.

Find out how we practice consent at Calia.

Intentions of Cuddle therapy

Personal boundaries


personal boundariesAllow you to safely explore your personal boundaries in terms of platonic physical contact as well as learn to express them.

Saying NO


saying NOAllow you to learn to say NO to what makes you uncomfortable without feeling guilty about taking care of yourself.

Asking


askingAllow you to learn to identify and ask for what you need without feeling guilty about taking care of yourself or being afraid of rejection.

Hearing NON


compassionAllow you to learn to appreciate refusals without the feeling of rejection and to respect others' boundaries.

Relationship


relationshipAllow you to improve your communication in terms of consent and personal boundaries and thus improve your interpersonal relationships.

Oxytocin


benefitsAllow you to rediscover the physical and mental benefits of consenting platonic cuddles and oxytocin.

Collaboration with psychotherapy


Cuddle therapy is not a psychotherapy; this is why a psycho/cuddle-therapy collaboration is ideal in cases of disorders associated with physical contact. Psychology or psychotherapy allows the client to identify, analyze and correct their psychological and mental disorders, while cuddle therapy allows them to put it into practice in a supervised and safe environment.

Many of my clients who had psychotherapy for physical contact PTSD ended up being told by their therapist (and here I quote my clients): "Well, we have fixed the mental part, now you have to practice to hug in the real world, so find someone on a dating site or get yourself an escort. "
- Alie Valérie

By collaborating with Calia, not only the client remains safe and can be properly accompanied in their healing process, but the psychotherapist can also be ensured follow-ups and thus be able to intervene each time a cuddle therapy session generates progress, regressions or revelations at the psychological level.

If you are a psychiatrist, psychologist, psychotherapist, social worker or any other type of specialist working with people who have suffered physical contact traumas (aggression, abuse, physical, sexual or mental violence, etc.) and are interested in a collaboration with cuddle therapy, please contact Alie.
Whether it's to refer Calia to your clients or to have Calia refer you to their clients!

Limitations and risks of Cuddle therapy


In addition to the fact that Cuddle therapy is not a psychotherapy (see the Collaboration section), Cuddle therapy has certain limitations that must be understood by the client. In addition, Cuddle therapy may also lead to an overdose of oxytocin, which in turn, although associated with many benefits, may also carry certain risks (see the page on Oxytocin (soon available).)

*Cuddle therapy is not a licensed medical practice and should not replace the consultation of a health professional, either physical or psychological.

Indeed, I can't guarantee you any results nor give you a receipt for insurance. I can't tell you that cuddle therapy will solve all your problems, although there is more and more studies and evidence that it can help. All I can promise you is to do my best so that you have the best experience possible!

*Cuddle therapy does not include, under any circumstances, any form of explicit or implicit sexuality.

Indeed, cuddle therapy involves only platonic cuddles. There is no nudity even partial, no intention nor sexual or even sensual energy. Picture a mother holding her child in her arms; that's more like it.
Yes, erections are possible, even natual given the level of relaxation or proximity, but nothing else happens! Actually, we usually put a pillow, cushion or blanket between people so that the erections don't cause any discomfort. And if the tension starts to rise: well, we take a break, we pull away, take a deep breath and if need be, start talking about car mechanics or politics!

*The relationship between the client and the professional is exclusively professional and is strictly limited to the scope of the session or the workshop.

Indeed, it is important that you to understand that I will not become your friend (outside of Calia) nor your girlfriend. The reason it's hard to remember that is that you'll be spending a couple of hours with someone who gives you their full attention, who respects you and listens to you without judging, who takes the time to make sure you are comfortable ... For some people, this is a rare experience! Add to that the fact that well-done cuddles, consenting cuddles, fill you with oxytocin (the hormone accentuating the feelings of attachment, love and well-being). So yes, it is easy and common to "fall in love" in a cuddle therapy session!
What you need to remember is that during the cuddle therapy session, just like any other type of therapy, attention goes one way. You don't come to see me to hear about my personal problems; you come to me to tell me about yours. You do not come to see me to give me the touch I need; you come to ask me if I would like to give you the touch you need. And that's great! That's the reason you pay; to have a few hours where you are the center of attention! So enjoy it, I'm here for that!

*Emotions are welcome

Indeed, we do our best to create a bubble where the judgment doesn't exist so that each person can feel comfortable to live their emotions. Because, believe me, cuddles well done can actually bring out a lot of emotions! Whether they're emotions of joy, sadness, guilt, disappointment, despair, frustration (obviously, violence isn't allowed, but you can still feel frustrated or angry); at Calia, you are free to live your emotions in peace, security and without judgment. And if it ever gets too difficult to manage these emotions, we will think of collaborating with a psychologist or psychotherapist (or any other appropriate expert) and, together, help you get better!

See also...

Calia's Code of Conduct

The Code to which everyone must commit so that we can create the magic, safe and comfortable space necessary for Cuddle therapy.

Calia's Cuddle therapy Services

See what are the Cuddle therapy Services offered at Calia's and which one would better suit your needs and boundaries.

Calia Cuddle Therapy

Learn more about why, how and by who Calia Cuddle Therapy has been created and why it is the best Cuddle therapy Institut in Montréal.